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Jun 23, 2005
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Jun 17, 2005
Posted at 12:28 pm by warriorwoman
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Jun 16, 2005
"Donations" of Babies to the Infertile
"Donations" of Babies to the Infertile
Adoption is a business venture that is currently popular - and growing. "Finding" healthy newborn babies for adoption customers is not as difficult as one might think. It just takes a little advertising - much of it paid for by the federal government - and voila! donations of healthy newborn "orphans" appear. Are these adorable babies really looking forward to having adoptive buyers take them home, thereby "saving" them from their own family?
According to health experts, babies are better off if kept close to their mothers - and hospitals are trying to ensure this happens. Meanwhile, adoption "professionals" do their best to separate moms and babies.
The most sought-after babies are those "produced" by healthy, intelligent (if naive) mothers who are not yet through college. Expectant parents who are single are viewed as baby-manufacturing equipment by those who wish to obtain babies. In newspaper articles adoption "professionals" and adopters alike are often quoted saying what a tragedy it is that moms are keeping their babies.
It becomes even more obvious that the babies are a mere commodity when a baby who is not perfectly healthy when born is rejected by the adoptive baby-buyers. After all, who wants to pay good money for a "junky" product?
"Compassionate" aid to the infertile is considered so important that a single woman who is pregnant is referred to by the demeaning terms "unwed" mother, "birthmother" "birthparent", "birthmom" in hopes of getting her baby for adoption. The voices of adult adoptees and parents who have lost babies to adoption are silenced by various methods, by saying they are "just bitter" and "ungrateful" - or by outright deleting their posts off various internet forums.
Looking for a baby for adoption? Adoption is a business venture that is currently popular - and growing. "Finding" healthy newborn babies for adoption customers is not as difficult as one might think.
The following websites provide some information on the effects of adoption:
Effects of adoption on mothers ('birthmothers', 'birthmoms', 'birthparents')
Effects of adoption on babies (adopted children, adopted child)
The adoption professionals may claim "We can't help it - moms want to get rid of their babies". If that were true, would they need infant adoption awareness training and all the advertising promoting infant adoption in order to get "donations" of babies for adoption?
Posted at 02:37 pm by warriorwoman
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Jun 14, 2005
Considering Giving Up Baby For Adoption?
Considering Giving Up Baby For Adoption?
There are a few things you might want to know about infertility, the causes of infertility and the effects of infertility on couples - as well as the long term effects of adoption on mothers and their adopted-out children. (If the truth be told, adoption affects kept children, future spouses and future generations as well.)
Many people in United States are experiencing infertility - as the result of factors like environmental toxins, obesity, STDs, use of drugs and medications, drinking, smoking and delaying pregnancy to focus on their own wealth and success. For males, even holding a laptop in the lap leads to an increase in body temperature which may result in infertility.
See this webpage on "Prevention of Infant/Child Abduction" in hospitals.
As a result of infertility, hospitals must carefully watch visitors to maternity wards and areas where there are small children. Hospitals have even profiled the typical infant/child abductor.
According to the profile, the "typical" abductor may be overweight, has planned the abduction (although the target is opportunistic), may have low self-esteem, a history of manipulative behavior, history of miscarriage or infertility, married or co-habitating - often in a troubled relationship, may be attempting to 'save' the relationship, usually targets infant/child of the same race, usually acts alone but may have a partner to create a distraction to lure staff away from the target.
Many people who have had experience with adoption will recognize this profile. Adoptees and reunited natural moms all talk of how the child was used to patch a relationship or as the pretend "real offspring" of the adopter. There is a big difference between providing for true orphans and the DEMAND that is being made today for babies for adoption. No one owes their child or grandchild to anyone.
As many people have discovered to their horror, even "ethical" adoption agencies cannot provide any guarantee about the people adopting or the outcome for your child or grandchild.
Whatever problems you believe you have, the people adopting will not be perfect either.
Some information on adoption, the history of adoption and adoption reunion:
What the adopted child - or rather adult adoptee may say about adoption later.
Posted at 09:19 am by warriorwoman
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Jun 12, 2005
Angels in Adoption
Adoption is imbued with a mystical quality. Participants (willing or otherwise) are often referred to as "angels" "saints" or other terms which dehumanize them. The people who adopt are "saviors" of supposedly "unwanted" babies.
The women used as a source of babies for adoption are called "angels" and "saints" prior to surrendering their beloved babies, but they quickly fall from this unnaturally elevated status once the adoption is finalized.
During the closed adoption era, the moms might not have even gotten to hold their babies before they were whisked away - the punitive nature of adoption was unmistakable. Today, adoption is still meant to punish - adoption is a terroristic threat held over daughters in white Christian homes. Even when the threat is only an idle threat, a frightened mother may take it so seriously she commits suicide before the pregnancy is obvious.
Few mothers will be told how adoption - even open adoption might affect both themselves and their child for life.
Adoption is imbued with a mystical quality. Participants (willing or otherwise) are often referred to as "angels" "saints" or other terms which dehumanize them. The people who adopt are "saviors" of supposedly "unwanted" babies.
But are there really "angels in adoption"?
Dear Birthmother, I see no real angels in adoption.
Note: No mother is a "Dear Birthmother", "birthmother", "birthmom", "birthparent" (aka "birth object) meant to be used as the source of a baby for adoption. A mother is the mother of her child.
Posted at 11:18 pm by warriorwoman
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Jun 11, 2005
Posted at 10:02 am by warriorwoman
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Jun 7, 2005
"Unwanted" Babies for Adoption
"Unwanted" Babies for Adoption
In United States there is a large market for babies for adoption and few real orphans to be found that are young and healthy enough to be desirable for adoption. The lack of healthy orphan babies is no impediment to the adoption industry - when their customers have money, then babies can be "found".
The babies are often said to be "unwanted" - a veritable "crisis". Do moms really think of their infant sons and daughters are like some old junky sofa to be donated? One "birthmother" website states: “Adoption is not about unwanted babies — it is about unwanted mothers.”
There is no doubt that the number of "donations" of babies for adoption fluctuates along with other societal factors. Adoption agencies and adoption attorneys - whose business is getting more babies for adoption - exploit these factors and are the driving force behind the "culture of adoption".
Perhaps the most important device used to get more babies for adoption is to deprive moms of acknowledgement of their motherhood, their very humanity. This is easily accomplished through language. To make a Latino man appear to be "less than" human refer to him as a "spic". To make an African American woman seem "less than" human refer to her as a "nigger". To make a single mother or father appear to be "less than" human refer to these very real parents as "unwed mothers" "birthmother", "birthfather" or "birthparent". Few people would want to take the mother away from a baby, but just call this mother a "birthmother" and she seems to have the role of a placenta - MEANT to be discarded.
A person who was adopted at birth may say her mom DESERVES to be called a "birthmother birth object" for surrendering her. Do the people who adopted her also deserve some awful title for creating the "market" for babies? Some moms say they knew the ONLY way they would be permitted to keep their babies was if they were born with Down's Syndrome or some other health problem - and thus "unwanted" by so-called "loving" couples.
Today, people who want to adopt (puchase) a human baby have become very demanding. They are "goal-oriented" professionals, some of them quite skilled in negotiating. And - having put career ahead of family - the prospective adopters have plenty of money.
It's easy to take advantage of a mother who is suffering from the effects of pregnancy and childbirth.
Adoption "professionals" are constantly devising more tricks to get babies for adoption by their customers, offering open adoption and other lures. And prospective adopters join in with tricks of their own.
"Dear Birthmother" letters are everywhere - cool, calculated attempts to make mothers feel inadequate and make the people adopting appear to be god-like. If a mother "just didn't want" her baby, would it be necessary to push her to "choose" adoption well in advance of birth and get prospective adopters lined up and calling THEMSELVES the "real parents"?
When her baby is born, the mother is the REAL PARENT, legally and otherwise. The people waiting to buy her baby (the purchase disguised as "adoption services") are simply prospective baby buyers - NOTHING else.
Relinquishing a baby for adoption. Some people call relinquishment a "birthmother's sacrifice" - a mother sacrificing HERSELF for her baby, like Jesus was sacrificed to redeem us from our sins.
How many moms know the truth about the consequences of adoption separation on babies and their mothers?
A "consent" that is uniformed can hardly be called a "consent". In truth, society is sacrificing a mother-and-child to get a baby for adoption.
Posted at 10:18 am by warriorwoman
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Jun 6, 2005
Gadgets and Babies for Adoption
Gadgets and Babies for Adoption
What's the difference between a gadget (such as a phone with Blutooth, a camera and high-speed data capabilities) and a baby for adoption?
The gadget of the desired specifications can almost always be purchased immediately - and easily returned if the customer is not fully satisfied.
A human baby might take anywhere from a month to a year to obtain - perhaps longer, depending on the specifications of the baby and the budget of the customer. Regardless, the time seems like an eternity to a consumer who is used to immediate gratification. Those whose business is adoption are always looking for ways to shorten the "wait" time period and keep their customers happy.
As the market for babies for adoption grows, new sources of babies must be developed and "mined". If some customers can be persuaded that they are "just prejudiced" if they won't accept an African American or Mexican baby - and "angels" if they will - then it is possible to sell a few more babies for adoption.
To keep competitive and shorten the average waiting period for their customers, adoption businesses are also offering "open adoption" to lure more parents into surrendering their healthy babies for adoption. Using "Dear Birthmother" letters and adoption business cards helps to lure parents into adoption. Sometimes prospective adopters even make what they consider to be a "down-payment" on a baby. In infant adoption, anything goes.
Healthy white infants with good DNA are the most sought-after for adoption. Lucky for customers there is already a culture in America that is prejudiced against single parents. The abject hatred for single parents was so strong in the 1960s that almost no single mother or father ever got to raise their own child. Fast-forward to the year 2005 - it is just a matter of bringing back all the hatred towards single parents - "shaming" them. Then adoption "professionals" can just lie about the known effects of separation on mothers and babies - and voila! - there will be more babies to sell to the prospective adopters.
If the baby's own grandparents to do the shaming, then the adoption "counselors" can play "good guy", befriending the pregnant mother they have targeted as the source of a baby for adoption. While other mothers-to-be are respected as their baby's "mother", the adoption "counselors" refer to their targets as "birthmothers" or "birthparents" (aka "birth ojects").
There is a big difference between buying a gadget and a baby for adoption. But in United States, both baby and gadget are treated in the same way - just another product to be obtained and marketed to customers.
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Posted at 06:04 pm by warriorwoman
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Jun 5, 2005
Embryo Adoption and Pope Benedict XVI
Posted at 07:34 pm by warriorwoman
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Jun 3, 2005
Adoption Baby Shortage?
According to encyclopedia.adoption.com there is an "adoption baby shortage".
Just seeing these words "adoption baby shortage" turns my stomach. What is adoption - a system of finding homes for orphans or a system of getting babies for people to buy? Is "adoption" just a system of creating more orphans just so people who are infertile or gay can have a baby?
Evidently it is so.
When babies are taken from their mothers so they can be used for adoption, the babies suffer. But it is not just the babies that suffer.
This idea of creating "orphans" artificially is not new. Read "Not By Choice" to see how they got more babies for adoption in the 1960's baby scoop era.
Here's a tiny glimpse of how the babies' mothers might be affected:
"It was inhumane and unethical to subject anyone - most especially the vulnerable minor - to this such trauma. But to ensure she was silenced and abandoned her whole life was to ensure her dehumanization was permanent." - A Natural Mother
"Everytime I speak up about our loss as mothers and adoptees, someone starts talking about adopted person's right to medical information, as if that is the only loss that exists in adoption. I feel like I am being cannibalized and used for bone marrow, kidneys, ... At first, I was "only good enough" to be used to provide a baby for infertiles. Now I am "only good enough" to provide medical information. Our humanity as mothers still goes unnoticed....." - A Natural Mother
When babies are taken from their mothers so they can be used for adoption, it is not just the babies that suffer.
To consider the future or existing siblings and how they might be affected, read both of the following:
Adoption and Safe Families Act Tears Family Apart
Open Adoption The Wall
The baby-brokers all say "things have changed" in adoption, but adoption is still taking advantage of people who are naive or vulnerable. (If the adopter loses her income or gets a divorce will she then be asked to "do the right thing" and make her baby available for someone else?)
When babies are taken from their mothers so they can be used for adoption, it is not just the babies that suffer. But the babies DO suffer. What newborn baby do you know that cries for the unrelated people hoping to adopt her? A baby needs her mother and the security of her mother.
"When we are born we only want one thing to be held and loved by our own mothers. We know them, they belong to us and us to them. To take that away is not good for babies it is the worst most abusive act emotionally to inflict." -- from "What Baby Brokers Won't Tell You About Adoptees and the Truth!" by Anne Patterson, Adoptee
According to encyclopedia.adoption.com there is an "adoption baby shortage".
Just seeing these words "adoption baby shortage" turns my stomach. What is adoption - a system of finding homes for orphans or a system of getting babies for people to buy? Is "adoption" just a system of creating more orphans just so infertile and gay people can have a baby?
Posted at 07:45 am by warriorwoman
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