Adoption vs. abortion - hot, painful, ouch! what a subject.

What a touchy subject adoption vs. abortion  is - how can anyone contest THAT? Yet, as with any debate, if the premise is flawed the whole argument is worthless.

The premise - that there is a “choice” between adoption and abortion - is very much flawed. Why? Well, let’s compare it to the options of killing yourself or going to a technical school. If you kill yourself, you cannot go to a technical school - you cannot do anything because you are dead. Likewise, if a fetus is killed, the fetus cannot go to technical school, cannot be raised by her own mother or father, cannot do anything because the fetus is dead. But (going back to you ) suppose you do not kill yourself - then you have many options - you have not “chosen” technical school just because you did not commit suicide - you can go to technical school, you can go to South America, you can become a marine biologist, a midwife, a teacher, a philosopher or a combination of things….the opportunities and options are endless. And so it is with abortion - if there is no abortion, the options are limitless. Hello, I said the options are LIMITLESS. “Adoption” is only ONE option.

The flaw in the argument about abortion vs. adoption is obvious. Terribly obvious. There really is never a “choice” between abortion and adoption. Because by the time a baby is born the options are keeping her, shared custody with her father, temporary guardianship by her grandparents, etc, etc. - or (last place) surrendering her for adoption by unrelated people who have purchased “adoption services” designed to get babies away from their own families so other people can adopt.

Pressuring moms to surrender their infant sons and daughters for adoption is common - how else can infertile people and gay people and single people get themselves a healthy baby to adopt? Making moms feel worthless as mothers, making them think they have “saved” their babies from abortions - just because they foolishly handed them over to unrelated people - is a handy psychological tool used to get more babies. More babies for adoption, more money for the adoption agencies and adoption lawyers - and more donations for them as well.

Abortion vs. adoption? If you don’t want an abortion, you probably love your child more than life itself and if that’s true - you deserve more options than just adoption, open adoption - or any kind of adoption.