Stories of "Successful" Adoption?

Occasionally there are people on the internet, looking for "birthmother stories" , "birthmom stories", "true birthmom stories", "successful birthmom stories" or even "successful adoption stories".

What does this word "successful" mean and what does "successful adoption" imply?

Domestic adoption is the business of finding healthy babies for people. An adoption is considered "successful" if the mother and father do not come to their senses in time to figure out how to keep their own son or daughter. An adoption is "successful" if the adopted person maintains allegiance to the adopters and does not seek out his mother.

An adoption is "successful" if the "birthmom birth object" can be brainwashed into naively repeating "it was my choice" despite the fact that she had no real information about her options, about the consequences of adoption or about the consequences of open adoption. When she had no information upon which to base an informed consent the adoption was not even legal. An adoption is considered successful when the mother says naively "adoption is better than abortion" never questioning why she has only these adoption vs. abortion "options".

An adoption is "successful" if the adopted person says the adopters are the only "family" he has ever known. Adoptees rarely comprehend that  adoptive people purchase (or take advantage of) "services" designed to get healthy babies away from their mothers. "Divide and conquer" is one strategy adoption businesses use, pitting mothers against fathers and grandparents against parents. Moms and families considering adoption for their baby are led to believe that adoption will be "no different" from the standpoint of the child than if they raised their son or daughter themselves. It would be nice if that were true. Unfortunately an adopted person does feel "the difference" whether they are lied to or even if they are told the truth about having been adopted.

Sadly, few adoptees were true orphans that had no family desiring or fit to care for them. Instead, most adoptees were artificially orphaned by society, to punish moms for having babies and to get babies for adoption. Public policy on adoption has little regard for the effect on the person adopted as a baby.

The use of "positive adoption language" which is promoted by the adoption industry has made a realistic discussion of adoption almost impossible. But once people understand that rather than being individual "units", we as human beings are creatures whose identity and psychology are based in our true family, then a real discussion of the merits of adoption and alternative "permanency" solutions may take place.

Infertile adopters really want their "own" child. Language is a powerful tool, making people believe that one can make someone else's child "theirs" by obtaining a falsified birth certificate. Not only do agencies profit from this misperception, but most Americans seem to agree with adopters that after all they've paid for "adoption services" and all their donations to adoption agencies, they deserve a baby.

Adoption is considered "successful" when all of society can be made to believe that the adoptive buyers deserve the title "parent" if not "saint".