Faux Finishes - Faux Families and Adoption
(My humblest apologies to natural families with the surname of “faux”.)
Faux sis, faux bro. What are they? Faux finishes make concrete appear to be the most beautiful stone or make pine wood appear to be marble. Similarly, faux relatives may appear to be related family members but are not the real thing: they are Faux family. Speaking up about the subject of adoption is probably a Faux Pas - and so is the male adopter: Faux Pa. And of course there is Faux Ma.
What! I’ve deviated from “respectful” adoption language. I’ve been disrespectful of the “real” family. We have something called “freedom of speech” here in America, you know. The euphemisms and untruths of “adoption” and “positive adoption language” affects a persons freedom of thought like a sort of mental rape. If my grandmother died, I’ll say she DIED; If people are related only though payment for “adoption services” - services which are designed to get them a baby to adopt - I’ll say they’re NOT RELATED. And no piece of paper, no birth certificate (fraudulently amended for adoption), can change that fact.
Some adopted people have faux family - and they may joke about it but they still love their fauxs. But perhaps the saddest situation in adoption I’ve ever heard is this: an adopted person saying they feel like they have no real family. Their mother - pressured or forced by society to surrender her beloved newborn at birth - became so emotional about the reunion she won’t call any more. Their father is distant. The adopters are - well, they’re OK, but they just aren’t the right people, aren’t family. When they adopted, the male adopter sort of went along with the female adopter, saying something equivalent to: “Well, I guess it’s OK dear if you get a puppy - as long as I can go fishing or golfing with my buddies for a week every summer.” The sterile female adopter really wanted her own baby - and is still trying to have one at age 50.
An adoptee may think to herself: “It must be wonderful to know you belong, to really fit in.” Maybe nobody really fits in, she thinks to herself. Then one day she become pregnant. Suddenly the miracle of life means something. Did her mom really go through this - and STILL "give" her up? Did her mother pass on bad genes and will this new baby be defective? It’s scary. The adopted person may have fears that she will be a “bad parent” too and should get an abortion or give her baby away. That fear is irrational - it can’t be right. But what is right? It’s so confusing. What is a non-Faux relative? Will the adopted person get along with her baby or only be jealous, thinking how her daughter gets her real mom, not a substitute like she got? The adopted person got a faux family crest and history, faux genealogy, a faux family tree - and her daughter - or son - will inherit these “fauxs”.
Some days an adopted persons feeling are faux feelings, too - adoptees are “faux masters”. “We’re great on stage - adoptees can play any role” an adoptee friend tells me. I stare incredulously as the other adopted woman in the room nods enthusiastically.
Millions of adoptable babies were harvested from their white mothers in the 1950’s, 1960’s and 1970’s. Adoption agencies and adoption attorneys still managed to get more babies after that - although not as many. And now, the United States government is funding programs designed to get more healthy babies harvested from naïve moms so they can create more faux families. “Built” families they are called. Families built on the suffering of other families who are forced, pressured or tricked into surrendering their babies for adoption.
Creating faux families is an opportunity to shift children from single parent homes and clans (which are derogatorily referred to as “unstable”) to unrelated sterile married people. Gays can adopt now, too - anyone “merits” the word “family”, assuming they can afford to pay for a child - euphamistically known as "adoption".
So to get more babies, we now have Infant Adoption Awareness Training and a domestic adoption baby boom. We have Open Adoption and it’s associated lies.
Exploitation of single mothers is fun - why shouldn’t everyone call single moms “unwed”, “birthmoms” and then take their babies for adoption? Some adoption agencies and baby buyers (adopters) actually refer to the sacrificial objects as “our birthmothers”, as if they own them.
Some moms call themselves “lifemothers”. Hmm. Well - it is true that these moms did get a “life sentence” without their child. But why not just use the honest respectful term “moms” or “mothers”? “Lifemother” is just another word for breeder - a woman who is meant to be used as the source of a baby for the fauxs (foes) of the natural family.
(Note: it is not just infant adoption that is a problem in United States. Adoption from foster care is also an issue. Are families which are less affluent being torn apart to get young "adoptable" kids for adults to use "as if" they were their own? Read how the Adoption and Safe Families Act and Adoption Bonuses Tear Families Apart.)
