In United States there is a large market for babies for adoption and few real orphans to be found that are young and healthy enough to be desirable for adoption. The lack of healthy orphan babies is no impediment to the adoption industry - when their customers have money, then babies can be "found".
The babies are often said to be "unwanted" - a veritable "crisis". Do moms really think of their infant sons and daughters are like some old junky sofa to be donated? One "birthmother" website states: “Adoption is not about unwanted babies — it is about unwanted mothers.”
There is no doubt that the number of "donations" of babies for adoption fluctuates along with other societal factors. Adoption agencies and adoption attorneys - whose business is getting more babies for adoption - exploit these factors and are the driving force behind the "culture of adoption".
Perhaps the most important device used to get more babies for adoption is to deprive moms of acknowledgement of their motherhood, their very humanity. This is easily accomplished through language. To make a Latino man appear to be "less than" human refer to him as a "spic". To make an African American woman seem "less than" human refer to her as a "nigger". To make a single mother or father appear to be "less than" human refer to these very real parents as "unwed mothers" "birthmother", "birthfather" or "birthparent". Few people would want to take the mother away from a baby, but just call this mother a "birthmother" and she seems to have the role of a placenta - MEANT to be discarded.
A person who was adopted at birth may say her mom DESERVES to be called a "birthmother birth object" for surrendering her. Do the people who adopted her also deserve some awful title for creating the "market" for babies? Some moms say they knew the ONLY way they would be permitted to keep their babies was if they were born with Down's Syndrome or some other health problem - and thus "unwanted" by so-called "loving" couples.
Today, people who want to adopt (puchase) a human baby have become very demanding. They are "goal-oriented" professionals, some of them quite skilled in negotiating. And - having put career ahead of family - the prospective adopters have plenty of money.
It's easy to take advantage of a mother who is suffering from the effects of pregnancy and childbirth.
Adoption "professionals" are constantly devising more tricks to get babies for adoption by their customers, offering open adoption and other lures. And prospective adopters join in with tricks of their own.
"Dear Birthmother" letters are everywhere - cool, calculated attempts to make mothers feel inadequate and make the people adopting appear to be god-like. If a mother "just didn't want" her baby, would it be necessary to push her to "choose" adoption well in advance of birth and get prospective adopters lined up and calling THEMSELVES the "real parents"?
When her baby is born, the mother is the REAL PARENT, legally and otherwise. The people waiting to buy her baby (the purchase disguised as "adoption services") are simply prospective baby buyers - NOTHING else.
Relinquishing a baby for adoption. Some people call relinquishment a "birthmother's sacrifice" - a mother sacrificing HERSELF for her baby, like Jesus was sacrificed to redeem us from our sins.
How many moms know the truth about the consequences of adoption separation on babies and their mothers?
A "consent" that is uniformed can hardly be called a "consent". In truth, society is sacrificing a mother-and-child to get a baby for adoption.
There is no doubt that the number of "donations" of babies for adoption fluctuates along with other societal factors. Adoption agencies and adoption attorneys - whose business is getting more babies for adoption - exploit these factors and are the driving force behind the "culture of adoption".
Perhaps the most important device used to get more babies for adoption is to deprive moms of acknowledgement of their motherhood, their very humanity. This is easily accomplished through language. To make a Latino man appear to be "less than" human refer to him as a "spic". To make an African American woman seem "less than" human refer to her as a "nigger". To make a single mother or father appear to be "less than" human refer to these very real parents as "unwed mothers" "birthmother", "birthfather" or "birthparent". Few people would want to take the mother away from a baby, but just call this mother a "birthmother" and she seems to have the role of a placenta - MEANT to be discarded.
A person who was adopted at birth may say her mom DESERVES to be called a "birthmother birth object" for surrendering her. Do the people who adopted her also deserve some awful title for creating the "market" for babies? Some moms say they knew the ONLY way they would be permitted to keep their babies was if they were born with Down's Syndrome or some other health problem - and thus "unwanted" by so-called "loving" couples.
Today, people who want to adopt (puchase) a human baby have become very demanding. They are "goal-oriented" professionals, some of them quite skilled in negotiating. And - having put career ahead of family - the prospective adopters have plenty of money.
It's easy to take advantage of a mother who is suffering from the effects of pregnancy and childbirth.
Adoption "professionals" are constantly devising more tricks to get babies for adoption by their customers, offering open adoption and other lures. And prospective adopters join in with tricks of their own.
"Dear Birthmother" letters are everywhere - cool, calculated attempts to make mothers feel inadequate and make the people adopting appear to be god-like. If a mother "just didn't want" her baby, would it be necessary to push her to "choose" adoption well in advance of birth and get prospective adopters lined up and calling THEMSELVES the "real parents"?
When her baby is born, the mother is the REAL PARENT, legally and otherwise. The people waiting to buy her baby (the purchase disguised as "adoption services") are simply prospective baby buyers - NOTHING else.
Relinquishing a baby for adoption. Some people call relinquishment a "birthmother's sacrifice" - a mother sacrificing HERSELF for her baby, like Jesus was sacrificed to redeem us from our sins.
How many moms know the truth about the consequences of adoption separation on babies and their mothers?
A "consent" that is uniformed can hardly be called a "consent". In truth, society is sacrificing a mother-and-child to get a baby for adoption.