Angels in Adoption

Adoption is imbued with a mystical quality.  Participants (willing or otherwise) are often referred to as "angels" "saints" or other terms which dehumanize them.  The people who adopt are "saviors" of supposedly "unwanted" babies. 

The women used as a source of babies for adoption are called "angels" and "saints" prior to surrendering their beloved babies, but they quickly fall from this unnaturally elevated status once the adoption is finalized.

During the closed adoption era, the moms might not have even gotten to hold their babies before they were whisked away - the punitive nature of adoption was unmistakable.  Today, adoption is still meant to punish - adoption is a terroristic threat held over daughters in white Christian homes. Even when the threat is only an idle threat, a frightened mother may take it so seriously she commits suicide before the pregnancy is obvious. 

Few mothers will be told how adoption - even open adoption might affect both themselves and their child for life. 

Adoption is imbued with a mystical quality.  Participants (willing or otherwise) are often referred to as "angels" "saints" or other terms which dehumanize them.  The people who adopt are "saviors" of supposedly "unwanted" babies. 


But are there really "angels in adoption"?

Dear Birthmother, I see no real angels in adoption.   



Note: No mother is a "Dear Birthmother", "birthmother", "birthmom", "birthparent" (aka "birth object) meant to be used as the source of a baby for adoption.  A mother is the mother of her child.